Thursday, December 3, 2009

My Story : The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Peace be upon you.
There is a book that is quite interesting that I want to share with all readers. In 1994 I have the opportunity to purchase this book at MPH book shop in the Mall Kuala Lumpur. The title of this book is "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" written by Steven R. Covey. This book quite interesting because it point out a few role that we played as a human being. This book opened my mind to change and I strive to be an effective among family members and also those who deal with me. We as human beings always face many constraints and obstacles in efforts to achieve happiness in our life. Therefore it is better if we make our motto of our lives to always want to change towards a better life and creating a positive effect to our life and the life of other people around us. One of the way is to increase our knowledge continuously through reading for the rest of life.

Stephen Covey

Stephen R. Covey (born October 24, 1932 in Salt Lake City, Utah) wrote the best-selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Other books he has written include:
First Things First,
Principle-Centered Leadership,
and The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families.
In 2004, Covey released, The 8th Habit.
In 2008, Covey released The Leader In Me—How Schools and Parents Around the World Are Inspiring Greatness, One Child at a Time

Covey lives with his wife Sandra and their family in Provo, Utah, home to Brigham Young University, where Dr. Covey taught prior to the publication of his best-selling book. A father of nine and a grandfather of fifty-one with his wife, he received the Fatherhood Award from the National Fatherhood Initiative in 2003.

Covey established the "Covey Leadership Center" which, in 1997, merged with Franklin Quest to form FranklinCovey, a global professional-services firm and specialty-retailer selling both training and productivity-tools to individuals and to organizations. Their mission statement reads: "We enable greatness in people and organizations everywhere".

In 2008, Covey launched
The Stephen Covey's Online Community. The site is a collection of online courses, goal management and social networking. He uses it as a place to teach his most recent thoughts and ideas on current topics and self leadership.

In 2009, Covey launched his career development webinar series to help people struggling in the economic downturn. He plans to offer timely and current topics on a regular basis.

Covey holds a BSc degree in Business Administration from University of Utah in Salt Lake City, an MBA from Harvard University, and a Doctor of Religious Education (DRE) in LDS (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) Church History and Doctrine from Brigham Young University. He also holds membership of the Pi Kappa Alpha International Fraternity.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, first published in 1989, is a self-help book written by Stephen R. Covey. It has sold over 15 million copies in 38 languages since first publication, which was marked by the release of a 15th anniversary edition in 2004. Covey argues this is achieved by aligning oneself to what he calls "true north" principles of a character ethic that he believes to be universal and timeless.[1]

The book was enormously popular, and catapulted Covey into public-speaking appearances and workshops. He has also written a number of follow-up books:

First Things First
Principle Centered Leadership
The Power Of The 7 Habits: Applications And Insights
Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families
Beyond the Seven Habits
Living the Seven Habits, a collection of stories from people who have applied the seven habits in their lives

The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness, a sequel to The Seven Habits published in 2004

Sean Covey (Stephen's son) has written a version of the book for teens, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens. This version simplifies the 7 Habits for younger readers so they can better understand them. In October 2006, Sean Covey also published The 6 Most Important Decisions You Will Ever Make: A Guide for Teens. This guide highlights key times in the life of a teen and gives advice on how to deal with them.
Stephen Covey's eldest son, Stephen M. R. Covey, has written a book titled The Speed of Trust.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Covey's best-known book, has sold more than 15 million copies worldwide since its first publication in 1989. (The audio version became the first non-fiction audio-book in U.S. publishing history to sell more than one million copies.) Covey argues against what he calls "The Personality Ethic", something he sees as prevalent in many modern self-help books. He instead promotes what he labels "The Character Ethic": aligning one’s values with so-called "universal and timeless" principles. Covey adamantly refuses to confound principles and values; he sees principles as external natural laws, while values remain internal and subjective. Covey proclaims that values govern people’s behavior, but principles ultimately determine the consequences. Covey presents his teachings in a series of habits, manifesting as a progression from dependence via independence to interdependence.

[edit] The 7 Habits

Habit 1: Be Proactive: Principles of Personal Choice

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind: Principles of Personal Vision

Habit 3: Put First Things First: Principles of Integrity & Execution

Habit 4: Think Win/Win: Principles of Mutual Benefit

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood: Principles of Mutual Understanding

Habit 6: Synergize: Principles of Creative Cooperation

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw: Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal

[edit] Follow-ups
Follow-up titles to The Seven Habits aim both to add to the original and to form a cohesive philosophy on personal, principle-based
leadership. They come in the format of audio books as well (such as the title Beyond The 7 Habits). Covey has also written a number of learning-books for children. His son, Sean Covey, has written a version for teens: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens. This version simplifies Covey's 7 Habits for younger readers to better understand them.

The 7 Habits

Dependence to Independence
Habit 1: Be Proactive: Principles of Personal Choice
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind: Principles of Personal Vision
Habit 3: Put First Things First: Principles of Integrity & Execution

Independence to Interdependence
Habit 4: Think Win/Win: Principles of Mutual Benefit
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood: Principles of Mutual Understanding
Habit 6:
Synergize: Principles of Creative Cooperation

Continual Improvement
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw: Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal

The chapters are dedicated to each of the habits, which are represented by the following imperatives:

Habit 1 - Principles of Personal Choice:
Covey emphasizes the original sense of the term "proactive". You can either be proactive or reactive when it comes to how you respond to certain things. When you are reactive, you blame other people and circumstances for obstacles or problems. Being proactive means taking responsibility for every aspect of your life. Initiative and taking action will then follow. Covey also argues that man is different from other animals in that he has self-consciousness. He has the ability to detach himself and observe his own self; think about his thoughts. He goes on to say how this attribute enables him: It gives him the power not to be affected by his circumstances. Covey talks about stimulus and response. Between stimulus and response, we have the power of free will to choose our response.

Habit 2 - Principles of Personal Vision:
This chapter is about setting long-term goals based on "true north" principles. Covey recommends formulating a "Personal Mission Statement" to document one's perception of one's own vision in life. He sees visualization as an important tool to develop this. He also deals with organizational mission statements, which he claims to be more effective if developed and supported by all members of an organization rather than prescribed.

Habit 3 - Principles of Integrity & Execution:
Covey describes a framework for prioritizing work that is aimed at long-term goals, at the expense of tasks that appear to be urgent, but are in fact less important. Delegation is presented as an important part of time management. Successful delegation, according to Covey, focuses on results and benchmarks that are to be agreed in advance, rather than on prescribing detailed work plans. Habit three is greatly expanded on in the follow on book First Things First.

Habit 4 - Principles of Mutual Benefit:
An attitude whereby mutually beneficial solutions are sought that satisfy the needs of oneself as well as others, or, in the case of a conflict, both parties involved.

Habit 5 - Principles of Mutual Understanding:
Covey warns that giving out advice before having empathetically understood a person and their situation will likely result in that advice being rejected. Thoroughly listening to another person's concerns instead of reading out your own autobiography is purported to increase the chance of establishing a working communication.

Habit 6 - Principles of Creative Cooperation:
A way of working in teams. Apply effective problem solving. Apply collaborative decision making. Value differences. Build on divergent strengths. Leverage creative collaboration. Embrace and leverage innovation. It is put forth that when synergy is pursued as a habit, the result of the teamwork will exceed the sum of what each of the members could have achieved on their own. “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”

Habit 7 - Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal: Focuses on balanced self-renewal: Regain what Covey calls "production capability" by engaging in carefully selected recreational activities. Covey also emphasizes the need to sharpen the mind.

[edit] Maturity Continuum

Dependence - is the paradigm of you--you take care of me; (I blame you for the results)Independence - is the paradigm of I--I can do it; (I am self-reliant)Interdependence - is the paradigm of we--we can do it; (we can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together)[2]

[edit] Abundance mentality

Covey coined the term[citation needed] abundance mentality or abundance mindset, meaning a business concept in which a person believes there are enough resources and success to share with others, when looking at optimistic people. It is commonly contrasted with the scarcity mindset, which is founded on the idea that, given a finite amount of resources, a person must hoard their belongings and protect them from others. Individuals with an abundance mentality are supposed to be able to celebrate the success of others rather than be threatened by it.[3]

A number of books appearing in the business press since then have discussed the idea.
[4] The abundance mentality is believed to arrive from having a high self worth and security, and leads to the sharing of profits, recognition and responsibility.[5] Organizations may also apply an abundance mentality while doing business.[6]

Habits have a tremendous gravity pull

Lift off takes a lot of effort,
but once we break out of the gravity pull,
our freedom takes on a whole new dimension

Ready for take off ?

Habit 1:
Be proactive
You are respons-able: able to choose your respons!”

We have a wide range of concerns, but not all of them fall into our circle of influence

“Anytime we think the problem is out there,
that thought is the problem”

You can choose your language

I must
If only
They made me
If I had
I prefer
I will
I choose
I can be
Habit 2:
Begin with the end in mind

The key to the ability to changeis a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about and what you value

Habit 3:
Put first things first

The key to time management is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities

It’s almost impossible to say NO to the popularity of urgent, non important matters, if you don’t have a bigger YES burning inside

“Things which matter most should never be at the mercy of things which matter least”

Habit 4: Think Win/win

“You can only achieve win/win solutions with win/win processes”

It’s not your way or my way, it’s a better way

Habit 5:
Seek first to understand, then to be understood

“We have such a tendency to fix things up with good advice, but often we fail to take the time to diagnose, to really deeply understand another human being first”

Habit 6:

“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts”

“When we are left to our own experiences,
we constantly suffer from a shortage of data”

“The person who is truly effective has the humility to recognize his own perceptual limitations and to appreciate the rich resources available through interaction with the hearts and minds of other human beings”

In order to have influence, you have to open yourself up to bé influenced

Habit 7:
Sharpen the Saw

Read, write, relax, exercise, play, love, get involved, meditate …

“Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things … I am tempted to think … there are no little things”

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